redgirl1974's Journal, 14 Mar 19

The shoe comment... next time, wear those shoes, but take a second, comfy pair with you to change if needed. The breathing comment... even skinny people get out of breath when lifting/working, so don't take comments like that to heart, it probably wasn't meant the way you took it. Lastly...girl, remember one thing. The only person you have to please on this journey is YOU! So hold your head high, and stick with the plan! You COUNT! You are IMPORTANT! And finally... YOU CAN DO THIS!!! 

Kpcalories you said it best. Husbands do say things to help not hurt. My husband once said something about my pants that sent me into rage, considering, I felt good in the pants but because it had no back pockets he thought it was weird. Sometimes we do forget what we think about ourselves is truly what counts. Redgirl1974 you keep feeling good about yourself and you go girl! 

I would also like to add that I once felt like you when I felt too heavy. I lost it and kept it off....and still felt self conscience about how I looked. I lost even more for a medical issues and the doctor wanted me to gain...and felt self conscience about how thin I looked. You know some of the looks and weight is in our head not our body. Loose weight for health. Your value as a person is not the scale or the shoes. Your are awesome. You are special ....oh and I have asthma. I breath too heavy at 115 pounds sometimes. And yes I get self conscience about that too.  

Tomorrow is a new day. I know how hard it is one those closest to us hurt our feelings. Remember, chin up and never let them see you sweat! And, like Rosio said, use this for motivation to lose. You have a beautiful smile that I am sure could brighten another's day. Hang in there! This is a great and safe place to vent. 

well, if the shoe fits, wear it! If your breathing heavy it's likely beacause your to FAT! Stop feeling sorry for yourself and suck it up buttercup!  

love you! 

Hey Red girl🤗!! I am a fitness instructor for Vivafit, an European fitness franchisee. We girls get fat and we get thin, that can change, but what doesn't change is who we are!! Get some movement into your daily life, 30 min of walking around, climbing your stairs a few times, this will get your breathing and your fitness levels up. Increase the speed with which you do these same activities everyday and as you get the walking and stair climbing over quicker, you can add more times( reps), till you reach 30mins. In no time at all, if you do this regularly, you will feel good!! This is the feeling you need, nothing more!!🤗🤗😁 life is short, let's feel good for most of it!  

Oh darlin' don't you listen to them. Nobody should be making you that insecure. But here's the thing...you caved! Man! I want you to practice wearing what makes you happy!! DH made a thoughtless comment and then realized that it didn't sound as good out loud as it had in his head. People are like that...he cared enough to try and back out of it! I'm sure it hurt but at least in his case it probably came from a place of caring. If he knows where he went wrong he'll think twice before doing again and in the meantime you are going to be wearing the heck out of your cute clothes!! Now...as for the asshats at work. They would have been breathing hard too...if they were putting out the effort that you were. It's all good to stand back and watch someone who is working hard and make crappy comments...clearly they don't have enough to do if they're sitting there watching you work. It's hard to brush off the nasty words but you can brush the jerks off. Tell them to move along, let them know they aren't welcome. You're busy and don't have time for them. After they're gone you can feel bad, but don't feel bad in front of them...sometimes that's just exactly what they were hoping for and we don't want to give them the satisfaction. I'm fat. I can say that about myself any time I want...nobody else gets to. You decide what you can handle other people saying. Someone I used to know used to like to talk about how fat I was a lot...and one day I just said that I was tired of it and that she had no room to talk. She was not in good shape and she thought that because this one task was hard for me and it wasn't for her so she must be in better shape than me. But I knew better. So I said okay, race you up the stairs. Now she beat me to the stairs, lol, but I beat her up the stairs. And when we got to the top we were both breathing heavy! Moral of the story dearie is they aren't ANY better than you and even if they're skinnier?? That doesn't mean that they are HEALTHIER. So you just keep doing what you do and moving that number down the line and when you need to vent about the asshats...you come here!! PM somebody if you don't want to post! PM me if you need to...I'm here!! Use your resources (...we're your resources in case you didn't know lol.) 

I know how you feel I'm down 140lbs from where I started 2 years ago. A few weeks ago I saw family that I hadn't seen in almost a year and nobody said a word. I don't need their recognition but it would have been nice because it took a lot of hard work to get where I am.  

Healthier at any weight is a good goal. Healthy amount of fun exercise, healthier food choices. Just keep moving forward. 

Let those comments slide right off your back like water on a duck. Whenever you feel that way think “quack quack”. And if you’re ever feeling sad, say this to yourself more than three times and I guarantee you’ll smile...guaranteed...ready? Ha Ha Ha Hee Hee Hee Ho Ho Ho Ha Ha Ha Hee Hee Hee Ho Ho Ho Ha Ha Ha Hee Hee Hee Ho Ho Ho you’re feeling good already, right😊 Be good to yourself Phil 

Good advice from all, especially Phillip 

thank you everyone. Phil, awesome advise! I talked it out with DH last night and I felt kinda stupid bc at the end of the day my feet were killing me and those shoes would have made it worse so he was probably right. Im ignoring the insensitive dick at work. He can mind his own business. Im trying to really use this experience as fuel to my fire. Planning a shopping trip for low carb goods and getting my gym clothes ready. CRISIS OVER :) GAME ON!  

Thattagirl! 

Yup. Game on. Good for you 

I work with a person who btw is only 6 months younger than me and she always manages to make a comment about me. Not in an overly nasty way more of a passive aggressive and obvious way. It use to bother me until I realized something...she’s jealous. I literally lost so much wt without even rly anyone noticing. And now she’s not the “pretty” one around the office. Don’t let people bring you down. Most of the time they do or say things because they are insecure. Those people want to take the attention off of themselves. Keep up the good work and stay the course !!! Don’t let anyone make you feel less than fab 

Right on Kpwcalories 

Oh, please don't let others dictate how your day goes... no one knows every facet of your struggles better than you - we are proud of you!